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3. You Don't Need To Treat Trash Like Trash.

We often consider what it means to be "genuine" or what it means to be "fake".
Let us begin by first defining the teenaged word "fake".

fake- the quality of being double-sided and having a forced or social norm-shaped personality.

The opposite is considered "genuine".

genuine- the quality of reflecting every emotion truthfully and maintaining consistency with thoughts and actions.

It seems evident that we should all strive to be genuine. But what if our thoughts and true emotions are dark and indecent?

I can't help if a certain personality annoys me or if what someone says does not sit well with me. However, as a mature being, I would not need to tell said person exactly how I feel. Sometimes, it's best to keep your thoughts to yourself. We've always been told that "if you don't have something nice to say, don't say anything at all". We will be in good hands if we follow this advice often, but realistically, just smiling and nodding through the company of those we hate won't satisfy us.

If you're like me, you feel the need to talk in some situations. But also, you recognize the importance of keeping ties even with those you hate. When I hate people, it's usually not a hate. It's an annoyance or irritation. I know, much better. It's important to reflect on why someone bothers you. For me, despite me claiming that I hate someone's "way of seeking attention", "careless nature", "unfriendly personality", most of my annoyances stem from my jealousy. This is not true every single time, but understanding that most cases stem from my envy helps me see others as peers, not inferiors.

Just because someone is trash in my eyes does not mean I can allow others to see them as trash too. I can provide and speak about why I see them as trash if it makes me "genuine". However, with my interactions with the said individual, I do not need to create a scene by treating them like trash. Acting with dignity is a mature thing, and it's sad that it's twisted into an act of being "fake". If talking to others and interacting with them maturely is seen as being fake, then I will be fake.

If you don't treat trash like trash, it's nearly impossible for others to see your ruthless nature. We may be labeled fake, but trust me, the world doesn't need our ruthless savagery. What's the point on stepping on others' toes when we can leave them untouched so easily?



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